Take the test what kind of mom I am. Test: What kind of mom are you? (Express mom diagnostics;)

Every mom has her own concept of motherhood, caring and love. Take this test and find out your mothering character.

1. They say all around that you need to breastfeed as long as possible. My point of view:

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2. Where does your child sleep / will sleep:

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3. What type of diapers do you use?

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4. Will you spank (already spank) your children?

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5. When it comes to kindergarten / school, my child will:

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6. How do you feel about vaccinations?

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7. What do you do when your baby's nipple falls to the floor or the ground?

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8. When will you be introducing / introducing complementary foods?

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9. What kind of food do you feed your family?

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10. What is your child's favorite toy?

What kind of mom are you?

In this case, the eco prefix has nothing to do with the fertilization procedure outside the body, but means the mother's love for everything natural and natural. Your core beliefs in life:

A sling instead of a stroller
Homeopathy as a medicine,
Only natural food.

Vaccinations, fast food, microwave ovens, smartphones and a monstrous urban ecology - you want to run away from all this: to a summer cottage, to India or Cambodia, where there are no GMOs, USE and no need to spend money on winter overalls.

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What kind of mom are you?

Alpha mom

Your parenting is based on attachment theory, which creates a strong emotional bond with your child. You enjoy hugging your child in your bed, trying to quickly respond to his signals so that he always feels safe.

It is important for you to be in contact with your child, but at the same time not to become an errand mom.

Such a confident motherhood position is very calming for the child, it is calm and safe for him to be with you.

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What kind of mom are you?

mom "Whatever happens"

You do not adhere to any single line of motherhood, you act according to circumstances. Perhaps you will allow the baby to cry after a long sleep together.

You are against corporal punishment, but you prefer his behavior to be predictable and controlled.

You like convenient and simple parenting schemes and life with a child.

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Traditional mom

Your parenting is based on tradition. Most likely you use the same rules and principles of upbringing as your parents. You are sure that respect for your parents is a very important character trait and you are trying to achieve it with all your might.

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GO ON AGAIN!

Remember or write down what answers you give. Do you agree with the statement: the only thing worth living for is children?

A No;
B totally agree;
V children are part of your life, but not all;
G it all depends on what kind of children.

Suppose you have to invite a nanny. How will you find her?

A you have the most ordinary child, and he needs the most ordinary nanny;
B for the baby nothing is a pity - the nanny should be the best. But where to get one?
V you invite a nanny only under the guarantee of close friends, having discussed all the details, concluding an agreement;
G you are looking for a nanny through friends, agency.

Imagine being asked to install hidden cameras to look after a new nanny

(we do not consider the material side).
A you hope that the child will tell you everything himself, and the nanny will not dare to do something wrong;
B refuse with indignation (people must be trusted);
V agree (safety, health of the baby is above all);
G you are at a loss (if you agree, then without enthusiasm).

Educators, neighbors complain about your child ...

A you punish the child more severely than you should, because he made you look bad in front of strangers;
B protect your son (daughter), not admitting the thought that he can do something wrong;
V listen carefully to both sides and, only thinking, make a decision;
G You scold the crumbs for the sake of appearance, showing that you are keeping him in strictness, and you yourself imperceptibly wink: they say, this is for fun.

The child did not fulfill the request to remove the toys, learn the lessons ...

A you achieve your goal at any cost, even if it comes to hysteria and sobs;
B you clean everything yourself, and ask you to do the lessons when it is convenient for him;
V you can turn everything into a game, but you conduct business in such a way that the request is ultimately fulfilled;
G you try to persuade, but if it doesn't work, you give in.

The child asks to buy him an expensive toy, which he cannot afford now.

A rigidly stop "negotiations" ("You already have plenty of things to play with");
B seeking funds and buying;
V admit frankly: “We don’t have that kind of money now”;
G distracting attention by offering something cheaper.

You have made a mistake. Can you admit this to your child?

The kid begs to buy a puppy (kitten, hamster ...).

A make whatever decision you deem necessary without explanation;
B agree: you cannot deny him (her) anything;
V you discuss together whether there are conditions for this (a dog is not a toy);
G trying to "buy off" a toy dog.

Do you want your son (daughter) to grow up like you?

A of course, the child should try to be like the parents;
B the main thing is that he himself should be satisfied;
V this is stupid: it must be different, it is not some kind of clone. Let it be better, happier than your parents;
G it is not in your power, you cannot be neither "for" or "against".

Do you agree that an only child in a family is often spoiled by parents, countless grandmothers, and grows like the "navel of the earth"?

A he must be brought up in severity;
B even though his childhood will be cloudless, there will still be plenty of trouble;
V there is such a danger, but everything depends on the parents;
G let him be spoiled, but in moderation.

In difficult situations in a relationship with a baby, do you need to consult a psychologist?

A no, no one can solve any problems better than a mother;
B if it will be better for the child;
V you need to contact a psychologist before the situation becomes difficult. Then it will be much harder;
G only in special cases.

Do you think it is true that as long as the child is small, he can be allowed to do anything?

A no, he must obey his elders, perform small but important work for the family;
B totally agree;
V if you allow him everything, then a "little monster" will grow up, how can we then wean him from the habit of doing whatever he wants?
G not all, but a lot.

Do you listen to other people's advice about parenting?

A I don't listen to anyone - my parents know better;
B the main thing is that the child is happy;
V I listen to everyone, but I make decisions myself;
G if necessary.

Do you think that the kid should go to kindergarten?

A necessarily. The most common;
B it is best to educate him at home, under the supervision of his mother, in extreme cases, to send him to some extraordinary, beautiful garden;
V the garden is very important for the child's communication with their own kind, what is called "socialization". How will he go to school later, how will he communicate with peers?
G and at home it is good, and in the garden it can be nice.

The child does not eat well, prefers sweets to normal food.

A swear with him "to blue in the face", but make him eat up everything;
B let him do what he wants, you cannot force him;
V indulge in all sorts of tricks, offer to cook together (the game "I cook myself, I eat it myself"), say that this is a "cosmic" soup for those who fly to Mars ...
G you are glad that he ate at least a little porridge, but you are hiding the cakes.

Imagine that your child is too fat.

A start a serious conversation about the benefits of outdoor activities, give positive examples;
B what can I do?
V do not wash, so by skating you make him run, walk, get up on skis yourself, hint that they are teasing the fat ones ...
G or maybe it is genetically predisposed?

In the garden, at school, they laugh at your baby for not too fashionable clothes.

A trying to convince the child that they are only greeted by their clothes;
B rush to the best store and buy the most fashionable clothes (it should have all the best);
V picking up something more acceptable from your existing wardrobe;
G move the conversation to another topic.

They call you from the agency and offer to make a "TV star" out of the child, but not for free.

A payment is out of the question, it is not yet known who is doing whom;
B agree with pleasure, pay any expenses, if necessary - take; maybe sell your car, apartment ...
V ask not to call anymore (a normal child should grow up, games with a star "break" adults, let alone a baby);
G if you agree, then without much joy, if the costs are low.

Your child is too fond of computers, surfing the Internet. Do you mind?

A only under your control if she learns her homework and helps around the house;
B if he wants, then let him play;
V The Internet is great, but there you can go where an adult is better off. And computer "shooters" are not very clever occupation, they give little. So no more than an hour a day. I also need to do my homework, take a walk, read, play chess ...
G he will get bored and he will quit.

Are your children considered snitches?

A the child must share everything with educators, parents;
B if he is offended, he must complain;
V no, among peers this is considered a great sin, no one will get along with them;
G it all depends on the circumstances.

Can you call your toddler greedy?

A not greedy, but thrifty: you give everything, and you yourself are left with what?
B my child is not capable of anything bad;
V I even hold him back, he is ready to give everything away;
G depending on what and to whom to give.

Your opinion: how important is it for a child to communicate with peers?

A but they must be children from respectable families;
B why? After all, he has me!
V it is very important;
G it is not an end in itself, the main thing is the level of communication.

How do you rate the statement: "Are your parents always right?"

A absolutely right;
B you dream about it;
V completely disagree;
G you don't like the word "always".

If you have most of the answers:

"A"... You treat the child too harshly, you are a dictator. Your upbringing option is a time bomb. You "break" your child, his "I", individuality, and he looks into your mouth; and then, most likely, in adolescence, he will break out of obedience, rebel. The result can be sad. You should seriously change the approach to parenting.

"B"... You forgive your baby everything, do not allow the thought that he can do something wrong. But this does not happen! Your baby is not an elf, but a living creature. So you can spoil, raise a "mama's son". You know the saying: what kind of mother are you if you don't feed your own daughter until retirement - this is about you. Think about it.

"V"... You can say, Ushinsky or Pestalozzi of our time. A wonderful, wise mother. The main thing that you have been able to achieve is love, understanding and trust in your relationship with your child. The only danger is that a fairly democratic upbringing style that you profess (for example, a daughter is a friend, a son is a friend) can erase the necessary boundaries between a child and an adult, create unnecessary familiarity. But I think you understand this.

"G"... Your strong point is compromise. You would be an excellent diplomat or negotiator. But everything has reasonable limits. Of course, there is no doubt about your love for your child. But there is a suspicion that you do not have a certain system in upbringing. Today you can allow everything, tomorrow you can forbid it. So anyone can be confused. The little person feels your lack of self-confidence and turns the matter in his favor. Checks the boundaries of the permissible ... So, in the end, the baby can sit on your neck. Think: where did you get the urge to compromise? From an indecisive nature? Or are you very busy with yourself and your work? In any case, it is worth contacting a good psychologist.

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Mama helicopter

Are you sure: the world around is dangerous, and your main mother's task is to protect your child from any threats: real, virtual, potential and imaginary. Even if the world around you does not scare you so much, you are still sure that the child will not survive in it without you: not only while your 6-month-old baby is warming up at your breast, but also later, when in the room with the sign “Do not enter! Kill! ” a 15-year-old teenager is selflessly playing World Of Tanks. The danger of this approach to motherhood is that sooner or later the child will believe you. He will be convinced that he is not able to achieve anything without you - your physical presence, personal involvement, protection and moral and material support. And you will have in your arms a 30-year-old “outgrown” - always not ready for marriage, career and independent life.

What to do about it?

Let go of the situation a little. Allow your child to bump up, fence in, and learn to be independent - even when making mistakes. Take up a hobby, devote yourself to work - or temporarily go headlong into building a happy marriage. And the husband will be happy, and the child will be happy.

Tigress mother

Russian version - mother sergeant. You confuse (even frighten) others with your authoritarianism a little. However, the children and her husband have long been accustomed to her. You always know for a week in advance how and how your family will live. Deviation from family routines and everyday rituals = execution for a week without sweets. You know how you want to see your child in a week, a year, 10 years - and how to achieve this. If the child resists - it is a pity, but fixable, because your will to win is nourished by an inner confidence in "motherly righteousness." Your favorite phrases are “Because I said so”, “I know better” and “This is not discussed”. By the way, you are up to green envy in the eyes of others who are successful in any field of activity - be it housekeeping or managing an international corporation. Your kids are most likely successful too. But are you happy? ..

What to do about it?

It is difficult to change yourself - after all, most likely, the roots of your maternal "method" go back deeply to childhood (and childhood traumas inevitable for every person) or grow against the background of your personal characteristics - after all, you are a purposeful, self-confident, strong, strong-willed woman. It is very likely that you are not striving for change. But if doubts are not alien to you, then try to get to know your child. Let it open up, be spontaneous and unexpected. Ask open-ended questions, listen willingly, and encourage dialogue. Children know how to surprise! You may find that your child is indeed successful - but at tasks that are unfamiliar to you. And you will probably be able to love him again - already as he is.

"Lazy" mom

When you appear on the playground, "conscious" mothers expressively round their eyes: still! Your child is independent, does not ask to play with him, he can give his neighbor in the sandbox a spatula on his hat - after all, oh horror, you are busy with your own business. What kind of things can a “real” mother have ?! Mother-in-law, own mother, friends do not understand you: how can you not force and persuade the child to eat? He will remain hungry! Or not to put the child to bed. And do not check the briefcase before school, do not collect the uniform for the sports section, do not dry the child's swimming trunks after the pool. Your kids know how to get themselves breakfast (with healthy snacks!). They are used to taking out the trash, watering flowers and dusting their room every day. They do not ask to check their homework - and by the way, they do it themselves without prodding. People around you are outraged: you are depriving your children of childhood. You are sure: if they grow up, they will also say thank you.

What to do about it?

Nothing. If you believe modern child psychologists (Anna Bykova, Lyudmila Petranovskaya) and even "outdated" Uncle Spock, you are doing everything right. The main thing is not to go too far. The author of the term "lazy mother" Anna Bykova says about it this way: "It's good when a child can occupy himself and serve himself, but it's bad if he is always on his own." In general, dose independence - and enjoy "lazy" motherhood.

Self-mom (free mom)

You may be pursuing a successful career in the office. Or you have a profitable business of your own. Or you are an in-demand freelancer. The point is that you have no time to be only a mother (and, frankly, boring). Perhaps, at one time, circumstances forced you to switch to the dark side to actively pursue a career. But a lot has changed since then (including yourself). Now you believe that, first of all, you are a person, a woman with ambitions and goals. And of course, Mom. More often in the evenings. in the worst case - on weekends. No matter what the spiteful critics say behind your back, you successfully juggle your career and family. Your children are accustomed to independence, they are a little spoiled by grandmothers, they unconditionally obey the nannies - and they miss you so much that every joint hour turns into a holiday.

What to do about it?

Continue looking for balance. If everything suits you, the children are healthy, happy and independent, the husband is kind and inspired to accomplishments, the business is booming, incomes are growing, but the hip girth and weight are not, then everything is fine. Avoid becoming a restless running squirrel and fight as best you can with perfectionism.

Are the descriptions above not about you? There are also more “exotic” options.

Taxi mom

The Russian version is a mother-heroine, the Internet version is #yamat. The term was invented - or rather caught in the air - by the American writer Pamela Druckerman. According to the book, true French women, who relate to motherhood sooomuch state all state, call those mothers who selflessly lay their lives on the altar of motherhood. All their free time is scheduled by the minute and devoted to the transportation of children to the circles (and therefore the "taxi"). Here is the line of reasoning from the series “How can you offer children vegetables that are not grown on organic farms and are cruelly deep-fried ?!” or “I can’t go to the cinema with my husband in the evening and leave the children to my grandmother, who is happy to see them before the mini-heart attack — I haven’t seen them for a month. I'm a mother! "

What to do about it?
Channel your maternal instincts towards pets or clients at work. Both those and others will only benefit from the change of course. Remember that you are not only a mother - unconditionally beloved and loving, infinitely attentive to the needs of your child - but also a wife, sister, friend, an attractive woman. Start pampering yourself - and giving yourself some private time. And reconsider the number of children's clubs: does your second grader really need Python programming?

Fly mama

"Not a drop of a minute by!" - this is your slogan. You are confident that you can manage all 125 tasks planned for the day. You’ve learned, tested, improved, and successfully used most of the popular time management and housekeeping techniques. While the child is busy drawing colored dots on the wallpaper, you intelligently distribute the free 15 minutes between cleaning the sink, cooking soup and applying makeup. You have perfect order and sparkling cleanliness in your house (with the exception of painted ones - with your consent, for early development! - wallpapers). You are in great shape, because when you read a fairy tale to your child at night, you squat 150 times. Falling asleep, you praise yourself for having done a lot, then in a dream you see how you have time for everything else. The child is happy: mom is always there, always ready to answer the question of why clouds cannot be eaten like ice cream, she is always happy to buy this ice cream (on the way to another 10 destinations to go).

What to do about it?

Give yourself a break! Especially from what you consider to be relaxation: darning or knitting while watching TV, cleaning the sink while taking a bath with aromatic oils. Allow yourself sometimes to do nothing at all - no matter how difficult it may seem. And when you are next to your child, be with him, in his universe - otherwise you risk not noticing the elephant, missing moments that are truly worthy of attention.

Enlightened (and dedicated) mom

You are familiar with all the known and even little-known early development techniques. You are privy to all the holy of holies of parenting forums and are considered a recognized expert. How else, if a huge, even the lion's share of your free time is spent on studying new products and "classics", sharing experience with colleagues and applying all the knowledge gained in practice. You are a walking encyclopedia on how to teach a one year old or train voluntary attention in a three year old. And your child is a mini-encyclopedia and a prodigy in one bottle: bilingual, can read from the cradle, distinguish between Triceratops and Diplodocus with closed eyes, and knows more about nano-particles than his dad. Motherhood brings you great pleasure - after all, you realize yourself as a teacher (most likely, this is your vocation), as a loving and attentive mother and stand on the elusive but 100% deserved pedestal “mother-standard”.

What to do about it?

Sometimes letting yourself and your child go with the flow. Give him the opportunity to make his own discoveries, without your help. Play with him not only educational, but also funny and even absurd games. Allow dad to contribute his 5 cents to the upbringing. And to grandmothers who do not know what they are doing when they tell a child about his appearance from cabbage - so be it! Otherwise, there is a great risk that you will get tired of developing, and your baby will quickly get fed up with “development”. What can we say about the fact that modern school education is not adapted to the needs of geeks ...

Insta-mama

It doesn't matter which social network you are an adherent of. Fundamentally, its “inhabitants” know as much about your child and your motherhood as you do. (Or more, because they draw their own conclusions?) Every breath, head tilt, little finger of your child deserves the honor of being published. Your baby takes the first steps, speaks the first words, grows, develops and even gets sick or gets trapped in plain sight. And you, having irrevocably entered the role of a photographer, director and cameraman, cease to be a participant in the events, you lose the opportunity to experience the brightest moments of your child's life next to and with him.

What to do about it?

Buy a photo album - and “post” the photo there. Limit the number of photos posted online the day before (nightmare!) One or two, and photo sessions - to 1-2 per week. Think about the safety of the child - close your photo albums and pages from strangers. Read articles by psychologists, his psychological comfort, the rules of "social" etiquette. Oh yes! Shift the focus: post a photo of yourself - it also promises to attract a lot of attention and collect hundreds of likes.

In the life of every person there comes a moment when he realizes that he is ready to become a parent. It is wonderful when the desired pregnancy follows this awareness. But the reality is often more insidious, and many couples face the fact of pregnancy before they realize that they want a baby more than anything else. In this case, a woman's life begins a period of painful search for an answer to the question: am I ready to become a mother, can I raise a child correctly? We offer you to take tests for moms, and your husbands can answer the questions "".

Test number 1

What kind of mom are you: test with a table

We all know from childhood that “different mothers are needed, all kinds of mothers are important”. But what if your style of communication with your baby is criticized by all and sundry?

First of all - to look at yourself from the outside: what if something is really wrong? Our test will help to do this.

Deep down, you are sure that your baby:

a) the only normal child you know;
b) the most intelligent, talented, handsome;
v) individuality that must be protected;
G) ordinary, like all children;
e) does not develop quite correctly.

Most of all, you love buying for your child:

a) everything is expensive;
b) educational toys, gadgets;
v) goodies, clothes;
G) something economical so as not to waste extra money;
e) healthy food and / or medical and cosmetic services.

Today you can cheaply buy used baby clothes. Do you allow yourself this?

a) never;
b) only if these are some special things;
v) I buy only those things, the prices for which in ordinary stores I consider unreasonably high;
G) yes, often;
e) yes, it's just a pity that you rarely come across something decent.

What is it about your baby's behavior that irritates you?

a) never and nothing;
b) refusal to eat;
v) whims;
G) gratuitous screams;
e) slovenliness.

How much time per day do you spend talking with your child?

a) if he doesn’t sleep, I’m always with him;
b) several hours;
v) less than half an hour;
G) all the time that remains from other matters;
e) less than we would like.

Do you consider having a baby the main achievement of your life?

a) and the only one;
b) one of the main;
v) a lot of good things are connected with the child, but this is not the main thing;
G) I don't see it as an achievement, it just brings a lot of joy;
e) I do not think so, because giving birth is not as difficult as raising and learning.

Did you have a hard time with your child?

a) yes, it was terrible;
b) as it is probably not easy for everyone;
v) easier than many;
G) I was lucky - there were no and no special problems with him;
e) the main problems begin after birth.

Calculate points using the table

	a	b	v	G	d
1	0	3	10	4	5
2	0	3	7	10	5
3	0	3	10	7	5
4	0	7	10	5	3
5	0	10	5	7	3
6	0	7	5	10	3
7	0	7	10	5	3

From 0 to 20 points - hen mother. Usually sacrifices his personal life, career, hobbies for the sake of his baby. Any whim of his is fulfilled, but the expectations of the mother are too high: she is subconsciously sure that now the child owes her his whole life.

From 21 to 34 points - mom-producer. Subconsciously seeks to squeeze the maximum out of the child's abilities. She wants to see his superiority in everything over their peers. Most likely, the woman herself in the past had a hard time realizing that she was imperfect.

From 35 to 48 points - mother-actress. He considers the child a pleasant decoration of his life. She caresses him when she likes him, and pushes him away if she is busy. Such mothers have a phone full of numbers of nannies, they always need helpers, grandmothers, wise advice from their friends.

From 49 to 70 points - mom is a friend. From the outside it may seem rather indifferent to the child. So he fell and burst into tears, and she says with a smile something like "he'll heal before the wedding." She constantly teaches the child something, but, as it were, gradually, unobtrusively. Allows him to make mistakes and take risks within reasonable limits.

Test number 2

What kind of mom are you: from pregnancy and childbirth ...

The birth of a child is one of the most important events in the life of any woman. And everyone wants to be the best mother for her baby, and so that he grows up smart, kind and happy.

Psychologists have been working for many years on the problem of what qualities a woman should have in order for her to become a good mother. For example, a good mother is the best friend of her child, she will never betray, she will always understand and the child will always be able to talk to her. A good mother accepts her child for who he is. She is loving, but fair, pitying, but not justifying any act, devoted, but not sacrificing her life for the sake of the child. This is a person who will be a support for a child all his life. We offer you to take an online psychological test for free without SMS and without registration, and determine how good a mother you are. Experience shows that it is impossible to understand which mother is better and which is worse. The main thing is that she should be a mother tuned in to her child. A child is the most precious thing you have. Let the phrase "I love you" from his lips be the best reward for you.

So the test ...

1. When it comes time to go to the hospital:

a. You pack at the last minute.
b. You prepared everything a few weeks ago.
v. You prepared everything a few months ago.

2. You are breastfeeding:

a. As long as he asks about it.
b. Before going to work.
v. Just a few days: you are worried that you are low on milk.

3. At 8 months:

a. You are giving your toddler store-bought baby food.
b. You alternate between grocery and homemade food.
v. Each time, you yourself prepare vegetable puree for him.

4. Your child's photo album:

a. Looks like a shoebox with all the photos piled up in a pile.
b. Reflects only the most important events (birthday, etc.).
v. Filled with photographs, little memories, comments.

5. Your baby is 11 months old. At night, his temperature rises suddenly. You:

a. Give him a baby dose of paracetamol and go back to bed.
b. Give him a baby dose of paracetamol and stay there until the fever subsides.
v. Call your pediatrician immediately.

6. At 5 o'clock in the morning, your six-month-old baby starts screaming:

a. You will take the baby to your bed for the rest of the night.
b. You will wait a few minutes before approaching, and then explain to him that he needs to sleep.
v. You will walk up to him and stay by his side until he falls asleep.

7. What do you do when your baby drops the pacifier on the floor?

a. Wipe it off with a paper handkerchief.
b. Rinse with water.
v. Wash it immediately with hot water and then sterilize it.

8. Your nine-month-old baby grabs onto pieces of furniture, tries to touch everything:

a. You let him do it, because he discovers the world for himself!
b. You tell him "no" every time he approaches something dangerous.
v. You cleared the entire space ahead of time, fearing that he would get hurt.

9. Toys you buy for your child:

a. They make the least noise.
b. Entertain him the most.
v. Most educational.

10. On your baby's first birthday, you:

a. Put one candle in a cake and take photos.
b. Bake a sweet cake and invite your friends.
v. Prepare to celebrate for three days.

Now count which answers you have more - a, b or c.

"Cool" mom

If you have a predominance of answers "a", you are "cool" mom (in other words, a supporter of free education).

Such a mother is a woman who follows her instincts. During pregnancy, she did what she wanted (continued to have fun in the evenings, make love until the last day). Her own mother was a supporter of permissiveness (and to this day also serves as her example) or, on the contrary, too strict, and this behavior is a kind of protest. She loves a soul in her child. Having read all of Françoise Dolto from cover to cover, he considers him a little man who knows what he needs. She breastfed him (because it was not difficult for her) as much as he asked (up to two years and longer). She does not have clearly expressed principles of upbringing. She does not strive to be a good housewife: if the baby does not want to eat, let him eat chips.

Her strengths: Cheerfulness, energy. The child is like her and blooms like a sunflower in a field.

Her weaknesses: Some carelessness, in particular in terms of food safety and hygiene.

"Perfect" mom

If your answers are "b", you are the "ideal" mom, madam, "who does everything right."

Such a mother makes a lot of efforts to succeed in everything. She is constantly trying to find a middle ground: strict, enthusiastic, but in moderation; prudent, but not an alarmist; organized, but without fanaticism. She doesn't worry about trifles. She probably already has a little experience with children: perhaps she took care of her brothers and sisters. She breastfeeds her baby until the end of the maternity leave. She has strict principles: you need to eat only at certain hours and certain food! At the same time, she knows how to be flexible and buys products that make life easier (for example, ready-made baby food).

Her strengths: Adheres to the golden mean and tries to follow the principles of common sense.

Her weaknesses: The methods are good, but perhaps a little old fashioned.

Restless mom

If your answer is “c”, you are a restless mom.

This lady is restless by nature, and if it comes to a precious crumbs, then her anxiety knows no bounds! Sleepless nights during pregnancy (she often dreams that her little daughter is born with a beard!), Excitement during childbirth ("Tell me, doctor, is it normal that 72 hours have passed?") And real panic when she holds in the arms of your baby. She wants to do everything right, but she cannot get rid of her anxiety: why hasn't he eaten everything from the bottle? Why is she naughty? The poor thing constantly torments herself with questions, and sooner or later the child begins to realize this. She takes too much care of him, literally shakes over him. She poisons her life with questions whether she is a good mother and whether she correctly follows the recommendations of the pediatrician.

Her strengths: Food hygiene, cleanliness. Child safety is at its best.

Her weaknesses: With a nervous mother, the child also becomes nervous.

Test number 3

What kind of mother are you in the eyes of a child?

All women with children are interested in the question, what kind of mothers are they? Stern or kind, hard or soft, funny or boring? And most importantly, what kind of mothers they are in the eyes of their own children. You can find out about all this by answering the questions specified in the test.

The fact is that some teachers are sure that there are three types of mothers. To find out which "type" of moms you are, you need to answer the test questions. It offers 10 different, fairly typical situations. For each of them, there are three possible options for the mother's behavior to choose from. Choose one of them as if it were you and your child. Check your answers and then see the results in the Transcript section.

Hopefully, by answering the questions, you will be able to understand your mistakes, strengths and weaknesses.

1. Seven-year-old Mashenka, crying, comes back from the yard and complains that she had a fight with her peers who bored her, you, in turn:

a) go to the yard about your daughter to judge who is right and shout at the guilty;

b) advise her to return to the yard and try to make peace with the children herself;

c) tell her to stay home and play alone.

2. Three-month-old Dima lies in his bed and cries, despite the fact that he is fed, dry and healthy:

a) calm him down, give him a pacifier;

b) take the child in your arms, talk to him affectionately;

c) wait for him to scream and fall asleep.

3. Six-year-old Anton ruined his younger sister's doll - crying, screaming, scandal, you as a mother must settle the conflict, how:

a) Anton must apologize to his sister and give her one of his own toys;

b) try to fix the doll with him;

c) as punishment, you take away his favorite toy.

4. Eleven-year-old Vitya stealthily took 100 rubles from his mother's wallet and spent it with friends:

a) conduct a serious conversation with him, at the same time increase his pocket money;

b) in a serious, but calm conversation with Vitya, you decide that he will return the money he has taken in parts from his pocket expenses - other people's money must be returned. But there will be no other punishment for this;

c) Vitya gets a decent scolding, and in addition he will not receive pocket money in the near future.

5. Fifteen-year-old Vera was at her friend's birthday party and returned an hour later than she was allowed:

a) you are so nervous that for the next two weeks you will not allow Vera to go anywhere - not to her friends, not for a walk, not to the cinema;

b) discuss what happened about Vera, taking into account her arguments; set a new, later time for her to return home, provided that the delay will not happen again;

c) you think that being an hour late is not a problem: after all, Vera is already a teenager, not a small child.

6. Twelve-year-old Galya has recently received a lot of deuces and hid them from her mother. It soon became clear. Vera cries and despairs:

a) be angry with your daughter not only because of twos, but also because she hid them. You decide that in the evening she will not leave the house anywhere and will sit over the lessons;

b) calm her down, decide to talk to the teachers to find out where school difficulties stem from and how to help the child;

c) you speak harshly with Galya, threatening that if she continues to study poorly, she will not go to the institute she dreams of.

7. Nine-month-old Anya with delight and enthusiasm throws her toys out of the crib, and when they are all thrown away, she begins to cry:

a) take Anna in your arms, play with her;

b) collect toys and put them back in the crib;

c) calmly endure her screams, believing that when she gets tired, she herself will be silent.

8. At 10 pm, seven-year-old Pasha gets out of bed for the third time and enters the room to his parents, complaining that he cannot sleep:

a) send him back, promising ice cream tomorrow if he falls asleep right away;

b) decisively send him to bed, promising, however, that on Saturday he will be able to sit longer with adults;

c) send him to bed, warning that if he does not fall asleep, he will be punished.

9. Seven-year-old Kostya is naughty during lunch - he does not want to eat what he does not like, although he used to like it:

a) prepare something else for him in return;

b) allow him to get up from the table on the condition that he will get the same for dinner;

c) sternly warn that you do not tolerate whims and that Kostya will not get up from the table until the plate is empty.

10. Six-year-old Natasha travels with her mother on the bus, behaves not very politely, and at the remark made to her by her mother, she becomes bitter and shouts at her:

a) do not react to Natasha's screams: after all, she is a child;

b) restrained, but decisively, calm her down;

c) give her a spank, warning her that you will still be punished at home.

Decryption of responses

Count your mommy's answers. Which category do you have the most answers?

If more answers are "a", you are the type of mothers whose main mistake is the lack of trust in their own child. You often interfere in his affairs. Toss between excessive condescension and excessive severity. Try to remove all obstacles on the way of the child. You constantly decide everything for him, you are always afraid that he might do something bad, bring trouble on himself. Treat him like a slave, and a privileged plan - pamper, but keep him in a cage. You demand that the child believes you infinitely, but you yourself do not really trust him. While loving, you often do not understand the child and his real needs.

If more answers are "b", be the type of mothers reasonable and understanding of their child. Imagine to him exactly as much freedom as it should be at his age. You understand that a child must acquire life experience on his own, even if this experience is distressing, that he must, perhaps, learn to take responsibility for himself and his actions earlier. As a mother, you do not tyrannize the child, but surround him, however, with vigilant, albeit restrained, care, try, first of all, to understand him in any situation and at any age.

If there are more answers of category "c" then you are a child-friendly mom. This means that you are more willing to use those parenting methods that do not require you to make special efforts and understand the interests of children and their psyche. You tend to knock off responsibility for the child, give him freedom, maybe even excessive, just so as not to burden yourself with unnecessary worries. You firmly believe that the best way to raise a child is punishment; think it's good to scare a child sometimes. You don’t try to understand it, because you don’t think that it is necessary for the upbringing process.

Test # 4: Are you raising your child the right way?

A.

My children are the most important thing in life for me.
For the sake of children, I am ready to give up my personal life.
All the time I think only about children - their illnesses, affairs, friends.

B.

My children always know how to get what they want from me.
I spend a lot more money on children than on myself.
I do not understand how you can get tired of the company of your children.

B.

My children have more household chores than others.
My oldest child is always looking after the youngest.
I willingly entrust difficult matters to my oldest child.

G.

The main thing to teach children is to obey.
Children should respect their mother more than anyone else in the world.
You can not show your weakness in front of children.

D.

It is good for children if they not only love, but are also afraid of their mother.
For the sake of the children themselves, their wrongdoing cannot be left unpunished.
Sometimes the best punishment is a spanking.

Now, please mark those statements with which you can agree. If in any of the sections you marked 2 or 3 points, there is a risk of some "kinks".

And - perhaps you imagine your child as more helpless than he really is. Try to give him more independence!
B - are you spoiling your children too much? You yourself are still a young woman!
B - perhaps you are a little more demanding than the child can bear. Does this lead to tension in the family?
D - the impression is that your children are not allowed to do anything. Try to choose the most necessary from your requirements!
D - do not think that severe punishment is the best method of education. There is a risk that the child will stop responding to requests that are not backed up by a threat.

If you find that you have exceeded your authority in a relationship with a child, at least be glad that it happened in a timely manner - an attentive mother is always ready to admit her mistakes.

Test number 5: am I ready to become a mother

In the life of every person there comes a moment when he realizes that he is ready to become a parent. It is great when the desired pregnancy follows this awareness. But the reality is often more insidious, and many couples face the fact of pregnancy before they realize that they want a baby more than anything else. In this case, a woman's life begins a period of painful search for an answer to the question: "Am I ready to become a mother?" We offer a certain algorithm for determining the readiness for the birth of a child.

First of all, the continuation of the genus is a natural process, therefore, the first stage - conception - depends on the state of health. If a woman's reproductive health is satisfactory and has reached the stage of maturity, this is the basic basis for her to become a mother in the future. In a healthy woman with a stable menstrual cycle, in the absence of hormonal disorders or diseases of the reproductive system, the expected pregnancy can occur during the first 3 months of active sexual life without contraception.

But the physiological readiness to continue the race must be supported by the psychological confidence in this. An adequate assessment of what awaits a couple with the appearance of a child, what changes will occur in their life, should be formed long before his birth.

Parent-ready people don't have to be like fans who can surrender everything for their idol - a child. On the contrary, they have a good idea and feel the strength in themselves in order to harmoniously develop the baby ...

So the questions ...

1. Pregnancy is associated with a natural change in the female figure, which of the following judgments is similar to your attitude to this?

A. It's great that there is such a pleasant opportunity to update your wardrobe.

B. A child is worth any sacrifice.

C. I will do my best not to get out of shape.

2. How would you like to appear in front of your child every day?

A. The best mommy (the best daddy).

B. Reliable support, support, friend.

3. What is the basic principle of raising a child you will be guided by?

A. The basis of everything is love

C. Education without limits,

C. Learning is necessary from life

4. What part of your life are you willing to devote to raising a child?

A. Until he reaches the age of majority.

B. Throughout the rest of your life

C. All the time free from work, personal life, work and basic hobbies.

5. How are you going to prepare for admitting a child to your home, for a meeting?

A. No way, all the main things will be done after his birth.

Q. My child should be surrounded by all the best, so he will be brought up in the most beautiful environment.

C. Simplicity is the key to success! The main thing is not luxury, but purity and simplicity.

6. Do you think that the problem of fathers and children will affect you in the future?

A. Undoubtedly, since the denial of everything old is inherent in everything young.

Q. Such a problem simply does not exist, it is a myth.

C. This is a small letter problem that is fairly easy to deal with.

7. What answer do you have to a child's question about where children come from?

A. Children are brought by a stork in its beak.

Q. You will not answer, referring to the fact that the child is still small.

C. You can easily find what to answer.

8. What kind of reaction will your spouse's decision to postpone the idea of adding to the family meet for some time?

A. We waited a long time and we will wait a little more.

Q. My other half will not ask for this.

C. The solution will appear in the process of general discussion of the problem.

9. What is your main goal of having a baby?

A. To give love to a little creature.

B. Catch up and overtake girlfriends and friends.

C. Create a full-fledged family.

10. What do you personally expect from your child?

A. That he will continue the race.

B. Will be the cause of the long-awaited wedding.

C. Will be a source of receiving various cash payments.

11. Who do you want to see your child in the future?

A. Those who realize all my unfulfilled hopes.

B. Able to find a way out in any situation by a person.

S. It doesn't matter, as long as the person is good.

12. Which of the following phrases would reflect your thoughts?

A. We are ready to have a baby.

Q. It's time to replenish the family

S. We are waiting for the addition.

Calculate your points

1 question - A (3), B (5), C (1)

2 question - A (1), B (3), C (5)

3 question - A (3), B (1), C (5)

4 question - A (5), B (3), C (1)

5 question - A (1), B (5), C (3)

6 question - A (5), B (1), C (3)

7 question - A (1), B (5), C (3)

8 question - A (1), B (5), C (3)

9 question - A (3), B (1), C (5)

10 question - A (3), B (1), C (5)

11 question - A (5), B (3), C (1)

12 question - A (1), B (5), C (3)

After calculating the points scored, find out how psychologically ready you are for the birth of a child, So, if you scored from 12 to 24 points, then we can say that while you are not yet ready to approach the birth of a child with all the necessary responsibility.

But it cannot be said that this verdict is a contraindication to having a child at this stage of life. On the contrary, your spontaneity, emotionality will allow you to become a real friend for the child, because it is these qualities that will be common to you.

Children's games - this is the element in which you will be indispensable for your child? But, plunging into it, remember that outside the game you have to constantly sacrifice your spontaneity, an easy attitude to life, since a child, in order to feel confident and calm, must always see parents in front of him who are serious and responsible for themselves, and therefore , and to others.

If your score fluctuates from 24 to 48 units, you can be congratulated: internally you are ripe to become a parent. You have a clear idea of what your child needs and what parenting methods are best. Your calmness, optimism, caring attitude, combined with a reasonable attitude towards life, will certainly make your child happy. You understand that immeasurable love for a child must be combined with the necessary restrictions. You are able to take the place of a child and look at the world through his eyes. The main difficulty that awaits you is to put the theory into practice, or at least bring the reality as close as possible to what you want. We hope that difficulties will not stop you.

And finally, the sum of the points from 48 to 60 says that in your desire to raise the best of the best out of a child, you are ready to sacrifice everything. You belong to the category of people who make their children a means to achieve their unrealized goals.

Stop and try to reconsider your tough stance on parenting. You have many advantages - you are responsible, practical, able to become a reliable support for your child. But your willingness to dissolve in it will not lead to anything good.

Only by seeing an accomplished personality in front of his eyes with his successes and failures, the child will successfully form his life position.

Therefore, before becoming a parent, you still have to work on yourself. It is not too late to do this, even if your child has already been born.